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The 3 Basic Types of Friends

JM Perez By JM Perez3 min read1.9K views

An adaptation of TD Jakes
By A Beacon of Hope Red Moon

The Wise One once said:
“There are 3 people you need to be aware of and beware of…. The 3 C’s” *

Confidant: These people are for, “YOU” they are with “YOU”. They are the ones who are responsible for leading you to your destiny. They will challenge you, confront you, rejoice with you weep with you…They will be there through it all good or bad, they will mentor you to reach your full potential. These people are far and few between. If you have found one…or one has found you, you are so very fortunate. Remember, become who you want in your life. You will know if you have a real confidant when you share exciting news, they will rejoice with you, they will weep with you when you are in pain, but also they will help you get going again. If you don’t feel genuine excitement and true emotion, beware, they are one of the other 2 below.

Constituents: These people are ”For” what you are “For”. As long as you are for what they are for, they will walk with you, work with you, be there for what you are for. You must know this, become aware of this, because if they meet somebody else, that will further their agenda(s) they will leave you and be with somebody else to further their agenda. You must be careful not to mistake your constituents for your confidants. This can happen quite easily when you are down and out. You can truly believe you have a confidant when you were in fact too blind to see, because your emotions were unstable and human needs irrationally took over. If you can at least recognize you are in a vulnerable state, take it easy on what you choose to disclose. When you tell these people your dream they are the types that will leave you to go and carry out your dream.

Comrades: These people are “Against” what you are “Against”. They will be there for the battle, right by your side, these people are like scaffolding. They will team up with you to help fight. They will only be with you to fight what you are against, but when the battle is over they will leave…. but like scaffolding that is erected around the building when it is removed, the building, the strong new structure still remains. That represents the strength you have gained; a new phase in your life’s path that you now feel more certain about. These people have come into your life to complete a purpose. If you tell these people your dream, they will not support you, because they were never for YOU to begin with.

Image Source: InspirationalThinkTank .com.
Image Source: InspirationalThinkTank .com.

Expect the constituents and the comrades to desert you after a while, because they were never for “you” anyway. Just beware who you do share your dream with. Trust lies embedded in this process. Trusting your analysis, intuition and not wishing on the hope that he or she might change. See it as it is and not any worse. Then you too can make for a more peaceful life.

Do not waste another minute beating yourself up when you feel disappointed or someone falls out of your life. Stop and think about what you just read and take control of your life and don’t take it personally how some of these types of people behave. You will have the wisdom now to know and understand the difference. Whatever the reason or season these types show up in your life, be sure now to make the most out of it. You will almost be able to predict when their time is done. We need all types in this world, but a more certain, more stable and confident you is what the world needs most.

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Happy International Women’s Day!

JM Perez By JM Perez1 min read889 views

“The history of all times, and of today especially, teaches that … women will be forgotten if they forget to think about themselves.” – Louise Otto

Happy International Women's Day.
Happy International Women’s Day. Image Source.

“Remember the dignity of your womanhood. Do not appeal, do not beg, do not grovel. Take courage, join hands, stand beside us, fight with us.” – Christabel Pankhurst

International Women’s Day Website.

High Desert Express Super Pawn Shop

JM Perez By JM Perez2 min read9.8K views

After a routine visit to the dentist, I decided to drive around, go sight-seeing and kill some time before picking up my Son from school. I drove by a Shabby Chic Shop, just to find out that the owner moved about a month ago and forgot to update her current location. On my way home, I stopped by the Express Super Pawn Shop, located in the heart of the High Desert, CA. That was my first time there and my second visit to a Pawn Shop.

In all the five and a half years that I have lived in the High Desert of California, this is my first time visiting this shop. Curiosity got the best of me and I wanted to see for myself what everyone else has been talking about. The shop is a good size and well organized. The workers are friendly and very helpful. They trade Guns, Gold, Diamonds, Jewelries, Electronics, Power Tools, Music Equipments/Instruments, Motorcycles, Scooters,  Helmets, Snow Boots and Snowboards, Gaming Systems and so much more. The Shop offers Layaway.

Both Shop owners have joined forces with TradeYa.com, which according to the website, is the easiest way to get anything you want without spending any money.

Barter Kings, Steve McHugh and Antonio Palazzola.
Barter Kings, Steve McHugh and Antonio Palazzola. Image Source.

Address Location:
11873 Hesperia Rd, Hesperia, CA 92345
http://www.expresspawnit.com
1 (760) 947-5555

Hours of Operations:
Monday – Friday: 10:00 AM – 5:00 PM
Saturday: 10:00 AM – 4:00 PM
Sunday: Closed

On The Web:
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Shop Owners:
Steve McHugh and Antonio Palazzola

Season Premiere on A&E: Wednesday, January 9 | 10/9C.
http://www.aetv.com/barter-kings

Lifestyle Choices

JM Perez By JM Perez3 min read619 views

I have been feeling like an embryo in my Mother’s womb; able to hear people’s conversations, to feel their pain, but unable to help out. There is a contagious virus going around robbing individuals of their sight, blinding them with a lie, stripping them of their most priceless possession they will come to own and placing uncertainty on their mind.
Some people, when faced with tragedy, meltdown, deception, disappointments, betrayal (you name it) are too quick to point the finger at others, too quick to give up and get out rather than stand tough and work things out.

Due to the amount of pain I am witnessing around me, I’ve been thinking about Lifestyle choices and couldn’t help but wonder if they sometimes cause us more damage than good? We are always so obsessed with focusing on material things or looking for something (supposedly bigger and/or better) that we are never really able to enjoy what we have, that we are never really in touch with ourselves. This can often be seen in relationships and such choices make a huge difference between Happiness and  despair, between love and heartache.

“Do not nurse hatred in your heart for any of your relatives. Confront people directly so you will not be held guilty for their sin.” ― Leviticus 19:17 (NLT)

We are all victims of the bad economy. So many of us have lost our homes, our jobs and in extreme cases, our self-esteem. Are these reasons valid enough to take them a step further by pointing fingers, threatening and ending a relationship? Is the loss of a loved one more important than the well-being of the living? Is the pain so unbearable that we believe inflicting it on others might give us some closure or help us heal faster? How does one treat a sibling wrongly, turning family members against a sibling and then play the victim?

Source: PositiveMed.com.
Source: PositiveMed.com.

How do we go from loving someone one minute to hating them the next?
Cutting Cords is sometimes necessary to end an unloving relationship and take time to heal. For instance, when a couple’s needs become incompatible or when they stop having the same vision. If it ever comes down to that, the best approach is to Part in Love, ending the relationship with Love and Respect for one another.

We are a Society who have come to believe that silence is the ultimate treatment for those who don’t see things our way. In other words, we think that withholding communication to others is as effective as punishing them. Hatred for someone or something is a weakness as it doesn’t make us think straight. When we are consumed by anger and consciously decide not to let go, we are actually inflicting more pain unto ourselves. Lingering on robs us of so much and leaves us empty. We attract so much negative energy, our heart darkens, we become deaf to the voice of reason and we are unable to receive the healing grace of God.

“Love is not a dead sentence and should never be used as a weapon of destruction.” ― Joan Ambu

Our daily decisions can either help us move forward and excel in life or hold us back. The choice is always ours. Too often we change/rearrange things when ideally we should be supportive, patient, understanding and loving while things fall into place on their own. Our Lifestyle choices reflect our values, determine our future and can either empower us to do great things or drive us to lose what is most important.

“Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.” ― Romans 13:8 (ESV)

Happy Valentine’s Day

JM Perez By JM Perez2 min read610 views

For almost fifteen years now, when I think about Valentine’s Day and everything the Media makes believe, I think of my Sister’s love. My Sister was a free spirit whose love was like that of a child. She understood that everyone was worthy of God’s love and she lived her life as though everyone around her had nothing but goodness in them. She made a mistake, which she quickly corrected in the end, when she couldn’t handle the pain of the final betrayal. She cried, out loud, to her Heavenly Father to ease the pain and set her free.
She gave her Love, Mind, Health and perhaps Soul, for so long to a man who didn’t appreciate her.

Valentine’s Day should be celebrated everyday. If you can’t make someone feel special all the days of their life, then Valentine’s Day can’t make a difference. Love and be with the one who loves you (the grass is never as green on the other side and chances are, it’s probably synthetic). Just as you have to work hard to earn your living, you also have to work hard in making your relationship work. Seek the narrow path (Matthew 7:13) with an open heart and trust that when Heaven and Earth shall pass, God’s words shall not (Matthew 24:35).

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“We are told that people stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck. But part of it has got to be forgiveness and gratefulness.” – Ellen Goodman

“We love because He first loved us.” – 1 John 4:19

My God is my truest Valentine. While the World sees us as incomplete and we see ourselves as a work in progress; God on the other hand, is the only One who sees us complete because we are His creations. His love is flawless, unfailing and He holds the key to our Lives. His love surpasses space, time and truly satisfies.

“Faith is a personal quest; not word of mouth.” — Joan Ambu

Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone!